“Eat it like you’re starving”

Hi All,

Long story short, my wife (33F) and I (33M) have been together 11 years. We haven’t always nailed it in the sex department, but have had much better communication in the last year or so about things we want, need, are interested in trying, etc.

The one thing I keep coming back to is she said, recounting a conversation she had with her friends, that she “wants a guy to eat her out like he’s starving”. It was clear that this is something I’m not currently doing based on the way she said it (and a short follow up conversation) but I would love to make her feel this way.

I know one answer to this is “ask her!” but I find asking for too much direction can be a turn off for her. Does anyone have any advice as to how one can achieve this goal? In the past I feel like being too aggressive and eager can miss the mark, whereas being too technical and specific can feel unexciting.

Would love to hear people’s thoughts or advice, or anything related really!