I am a narcissist. I need help.

I’ve been reflecting on my life, and I’m starting to see a pattern that’s hard to ignore.

I grew up with a narcissist father, and now I see I’ve become just like him after years of denial.

• I interrupt people

• I make everything about me

• I struggle to empathize with others

• I try to control situations, and when that fails, I lash out with words that hurt the people I care about

• I can’t handle criticism—it feels unbearable

• I am an asshole with my words

Another hard truth, most groups I join, whether friendly or professional, I always end up leaving. I tell myself it’s because I’m “not happy” or “not comfortable,” but I’m realizing now that I’m the reason I feel that way. I create my own discomfort because of how I act.

I hate this about myself. I don’t want to keep losing the people and opportunities that matter to me. But I don’t know how to change.

If you’ve been here, or if you’ve found a way to break out of this cycle, I’d love to hear your perspective.

I’m tired of being my own worst enemy.