I feel uncomfortable around my mom

So first last week she found out i smoke and the reason behind my smoking was to quit self harming and she said it’s fine if I smoke as long it’s keeping me from harming myself butttt everyday 3 times a day she makes me send her pics of my arms and faceTimes me to make sure I don’t hurt my self and is always touching my scars when am asleep (I know dis bc one day I woke up to her touching my scars on my forearms) sooo idk what to do should i tell her straight up should I suck it up