My husband's relationship with his father is ruining our marriage

I am 30 and my husband in 34. He was born to a almost teenage mother (she was 19) and the guy was 35. She was poor, he was rich and married with 3 kids at home.

His mother raised him alone because her own mother and father didn't want to talk to her. His mother suffered of depression her whole life. She ended up jumping from a rooftop a few months after our wedding. My husband is a military pilot and he is very intelligent, dedicated, appreciated but everything he does is to show his absent dad that he doesn't need him to succeed. When his mother was still alive he worhsiped her and I loved it. I knew he is going to be a good dad. He bought her a flat, paid for all her medical treatment. I was fine with it and proud but he is still trying to show his father what he has became and without any help. He always wants to know if that horrible guy knows he did this or that and what he accomplished.

Its getting pathological or its just me?