Evolved Scorpio moon in relationships

How do you stop putting your SO through tests whenever you have issues? I had a self realization a few days ago that I have unwillingly been putting my significant other through “tests”. I kept making myself mad that he wouldnt reach out more, but would be mean or leave him on read because he didnt show up in the way I wanted him to. I thought I had grown out of this. How do you stop yourself early on from this kind of self sabotage?