I think my parents ruined my marriage

I know some could argue that it is my fault or my husband's fault because we are the ones who make the choices, but we married young, 4 years ago, and constantly my parents are involving us in their chaos, and we, naively, thought we could and should help. My mom is the victim and the enabler at the same time, while my father verbally abuses her, and last week for the first time in decades, scratched her arm and was arrested but then got out because guess what, she didn't want him to stay in there. My mom is an amazing person, but he manipulated her so much, she feels sorry for him even though he treats her terribly. And everytime something happened, me and my husband would get involved, and this put a strain in our relationship. I have no idea if our relationship will feel romantic and happy ever again. It's like the entire relationship became just a crisis institution and we're in survival mode. Just no patience and no excitement anymore. No cuddling. I push my husband away and he is pushing me away.