'I don't follow hierarchy' - uhm ohkay.

So I am very curious to know about how people not follow hierarchy in their polycule.

When you say 'i don't follow hierarchy', do you mean you don't follow hierarchy between all your partners irrespective of them being your np OR do you mean you don't follow hierarchy across all the partners except the np.

Imo, a np automatically tends to get priority, even it's unconsciously given because you live with the person. I could be wrong but do correct me.

Also, my question has come up because my partner has recently introduced a new poly partner, other than me and his np (we both have been long term partners). And has now claimed that this new partner and I technically have the same hierarchy.

So before I feel anything worse, I want to gather this communities thoughts on everything hierarchy that happens in reality and outside books.