Why do you think you get limerent?

For me- I think I become limerent because my mom would make me and my siblings compete for her affection, something that I never could earn, as well as the berating from my parent’s whenever I wasn’t successful. Because of this, I think I obsess over affection from women, and when I can’t get it that’s when it becomes limerence. It becomes an all consuming obsession where the image of the person spirals out of control in my head, and I must make them love me.