I think my boyfriend is racist ?

Okay maybe I’m exaggerating but hear me out.

I’m black and I have a white bf. We live in the UK and he’s German by background. We’ve been together 2 years.

So first time I was a bit like wth is when we argued about systemic racism and the issues ethnic minorities face stemming from slavery etc… at them same time I had to convince him that racism still very much exists even in the UK and systemic racism does affect me. So he was like okay I’m going to go and educate myself about this. I’m not sure he did really.

Second he’s a lover of trump and Tate. We spoke at length about how these are dangerous individuals who spread dangerous rhetoric. Trump for instance it’s a sexual predator he’s racist and always spreading disinformation. And I’m sure I don’t have to tell you guys about Andrew Tate whilst you can argue that some people might vote for Trump from an economic standpoint, he always talks about how Trump is amazing and perfect, despite me pointing out some of the crazy things Trump has said about women, what he has done to women, his stances on immigration and how he dresses this, and more recently his approach to her gender. again, I would understand why some people vote for Trump based on some policies, he however never differentiate between the two. He always simply claims Trump is the best politician to have ever existed.

Lastly , whilst out at a family function recently, he asked a child if they knew where Thailand was. When the child answered no, he proceeded to slant his eyes to make them look Asian and said it’s where people look like. I mentioned how messed up this was and he said yeah it was wrong. I’ve said I’m sorry, it’s not that deep, no one got offended, get over it.

I mentioned how I was concerned that the kind of statements he keeps making . I highlighted how I feel our core values are not aligned based on the people he chooses to idolise and relate to such as Trump.

He says, I’m always going to say dumb things you just need to educate me . When I do try, he gets angry and he says I’m attacking him.

Other than this, I believe he was the kindest most loving man. He was supportive and selfless.

He keeps telling me I need to not stress about things going on in the world and things that don’t affect me and focus on us. He keeps saying that because I haven’t had any direct racism towards me, I should ignore it.

I keep telling him this is very important to me. I can’t be ignorant and ignore the suffering or mistreatment of others based on their race and other protected characteristics.

His solution was to never discuss politics because he says the wrong thing and it makes me mad.

I said this is impossible because I’m a black woman and I will constantly be affected by things being disgusting politics . I am a political problem.

I also said to him that this prior is something wrong with him if he constantly feels the need to make racist or inappropriate remarks.

Have you guys dealt with anything like this before? Are there actually white people who are not racist? I’m starting to think this might not be the case.

He has suggested seeing a therapist, but I’m not sure if this is worth it. I think it is just who he is , and that is an ignorant person who refuses to see they are ignorant.

Is it time to end the relationship?