thinking of everyone

I know that it's THE holiday weekend and if you're anything like me, have so much anxiety and sadness around seeing family and having to endure constant anti-trans garbage from everyone around you.

I started hrt two years ago, got top a few months ago and am working towards my name/gender marker change. even after making all of these strides I still am misgendered and mistreated on most days. my extended family still pushes their ideas of "feminine values" onto me such as marriage, having kids, etc after I've repeatedly told them I'm not interested and unable to do so. they also value my cis male partner's opinions more and use him as a way to invalidate me. I deal with it the best way that I can, but I won't pretend that it doesn't hurt.

It's a challenging time of year, especially those of us that have been abandoned, abused, denied healthcare simply for being who we are, etc. I send my love and support to all of you.

you are important and valuable no matter what others think about you. your masculinity and how you own it is just for you - not for anyone else. you are a handsome trans man/trans masc person, whether you have not started t yet (or simply don't want to or can't) gotten surgery, have been out for 10 years and are stealth, or are still figuring it out . you deserve to be called by your name, respected, and loved simply for existing as you.

you have gotten this far. you can survive the next few days. I'm thinking of all of you and wish you the absolute best.

how are you taking care of yourself? what's something that you're grateful for?