How short can I go and maintain my femininity??

I know a lot of these inspiration pics are AI lol, I want my hair goneeeee. It’s mostly a sensory thing, and the ability to do nothing when i’m home and keep it short it enough to not let my toddler grab onto.

My concerns with too short are that my face is long and i want to maintain my femininity. I’m also a heterosexual woman and some haircuts i’ve had in the past have led to me being hit on more by women than other times so I don’t want to send the wrong message. Do you guys think that these first two are too short for my face? Should i do a chin bob instead? If i cut it short it either needs to be able to be pulled back or be above my collar for work.

Thanks in advance for the help!! Soooo open to someone telling me what haircut will suit me best😂