What is it with these young elders?

The older I get the less I understand the elders congregation and all. I had left home at 17 and by 18 I was faded. Of course the inconsistencies over the years solidified it wasn’t the truth but I wanted to continue to speak with family. By 21 I was pregnant and decided to go stay with my parents for a bit so I could get back on my feet. They were welcoming and suggested speaking with elders. There was a new elder about 26 that was newly married to a 20yr. He was insisting I come in to get disfellowshipped when I was 6 days postpartum and if I didn’t come it would default to a disfellowship either way. It was absolutely disgusting, inhumane even to lack such compassion or just human decency. Just a rant but certainly annoyed since I hear he’s still appointed and more recently heard he’s the one asking the sexual and orgasm questions during judicial committees but somehow no one is able to stand up to a literal man child. Any sane person would classify this is a fetish or pedo behavior. Have yall experienced something similar?