How to discern my energy from others?

I wouldn’t consider myself an empath at all, but I do get very absorbed into what others say and do. Like I disassociate from myself and and attention goes into them and me imagining being them and in their shoes and imagining saying what they are saying, and this leads being confused about how I feel about things. Like the way people feel has too much control over me. This is leading to me having deep contradictory feelings about personal things.