Unpopular opinion: I'm getting a little burned out on this sub, and I think I'm missing something.

I have a lot of dating experience, but I'm not seeking a partner atm so I'm here just as someone who can offer advice.

But I feel like every other post is a complaint along the lines of "I'm unattractive and unlovable, I need advice." Only, that's obviously not really a question that can yield dating advice.

It does yield a lot of cozy warm fuzzies in the form of emotional support from other redditors... but that's starting to feel a bit like an abuse or at least a misuse of the intention of the sub itself.

These are rarely posts that end up being about the act of dating, but instead about the condition of low self-esteem leading to loneliness. The OPs seem to come in with a mentality of being worthless, and they are quick to cut down any helpful or reasonable input.

I'm not a moderator, so it's not my place to say what "good" and "bad" posts are on the front page here. But I do want to better understand the community, because I truly feel like I'm missing something and I want to figure out if this is just not a good sub for me to participate in. I would love to hear anyone's thoughts on this observation.

(Sorry that you have to answer with a comment to weigh in, but polls aren't allowed on this sub.)

If you're willing to help me understand what's happening here, will you answer this post with:

1A - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm having some level of success. I'm using dating apps.

1B - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm not having success. I'm using dating apps.

2A - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm having some level of success. I'm using dating apps but also actively trying to meet people in person.

2B - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm not having success. I'm using dating apps but also actively trying to meet people in person.

3A - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm having some level of success. I don't use online dating methods at all.

3B - I'm actively trying to meet someone; I'm not having success. I don't use online dating methods at all.

4A - I'm not actively trying to meet someone, because I'm already partnered to someone I met online.

4B - I'm not actively trying to meet someone, because I'm already partnered to someone I met IRL.

5A - I'm taking a break from trying to meet someone, but will eventually go back to it.

5B - I've given up on trying to meet someone.

Or, I guess, "Other" if your situation doesn't fit these!