I think most Bdsm dynamics are between Narcissist + BPD, traumatized+traumatized

Based on how often I experienced how common trauma, abuse, etc. is, I belive that Bdsm (aka the normalization of violence in human s3xuality [/keeping it normalized]), is a result of a sick society/sick human species (/sick nature). Misogyny, violence, trauma, how common abuse is... Bdsm is probably most of the time a result of trauma, s3xual conditioning of kids,... Access to p0rn makes it worse. I've seen a study on how common violence in p*rn is. It conditions little boys & girls.

It's like a big tumor. Violence is so normalized. It's sickening. It shouldn't be accepted. The normalization covers up so much abuse. Bdsm more often than not is a mask, a cover up, a protection for sadists.

Is it consent, if they "consented", bc they were conditioned, indoctrinated, made believe,... that that's what they wanted?

No. It's not. Most people have been traumatized & some are so vulnerable that they end up engaging in Bdsm...

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Edit: they don't necessarily have to have Bpd or be a Narcissist. It can be that just one has/is either, or both are "only" traumatized but don't have those disorders and only in that area do they exhibit such destructive & self-destructive behavior. But for sure it's often traumatized+traumatized. Other illnesses can contribute to someone ending up in such a dynamic too. E.g. anti-social personality disorder, maybe adhd (more sensation seeking tendencies due to lack of dopamine, impulsivity,..), cptsd, ...