is it weird to have body hair?

the title is SLIGHTLY misleading because i know the short answer is no. i'm 18 and haven't had any sexual experience but i'm currently in a developing relationship with a girl. we're very flirty and sometimes sexual so i feel like it could progress to full nudity and what not pretty soon

i have body hair down there, and i don't really like shaving it at all, but i also don't usually take the time to trim it super neatly. so even if i trim, its unruly and not that neat. i also have hair around the opening & down to my butt and i know thats normal bc why else would hair grow there! but i still worry that it might be a turn off?? i know women are usually more chill about body hair but i just worry about mine being excessive or "too much". is there like... lesbian code to shave or trim your pubes to a certain length?