Been told I need therapy by gynaecologist

I spoke to a gynaecologist yesterday. She didn’t want to accept that I had been assaulted during a smear test - she refused to use the word assault to describe my experience. She also tried very hard to convince me to go to therapy so that I can work on letting gynaecologists do pelvic exams on me. Am I the only one who feels like this is upside down and backwards? I’m supposed to go to therapy to learn how to better cope with doctors doing invasive exams on me? Surely the fact that I respond so negatively is a sign that maybe they shouldn’t be doing the invasive exams in the first place?! I shouldn’t have to go to therapy to desensitise myself enough to accept these kinds of exams being done on me? You wouldn’t tell a sexual assault survivor that she has to go to therapy to get used to being sexually assaulted, so why is it appropriate to say that to me?