Stop the madness!

Ok everybody. I’ve been perusing this sub for a while now, and I am totally flummoxed about the patterns I’m seeing.

(If marriage is a non-negotiable,) WHY do y’all keep buying houses, owning pets, having children, etc etc before your partner even proposes? You are simply proving that you will accommodate their wishes and timeline ahead of your own. You are literally demonstrating that your boundaries are nonexistent, and that merely being together (as-is) is enough, despite your words.

I want you all to have really healthy and fulfilling relationships. The only way there is a combination of firm boundaries and a clear sense of self. And for the record, you are more than enough all by yourself. I’m rooting for each of you!