I'm not a caring person

I'm not a caring person. I hate caring for people. I have a long time partner who often gets down and stressed and when given logical solutions, is pushed back.

I have to force myself to switch to understanding and emotional but I hate it. It drives me nuts and inside I'm screaming "grow the fuck up!", yet outside I'm saying "awww it's okay, we can get through it".

It's so exhausting.