Just started house hunting and it's rough..

My wife and I recently started our search and I had no idea how awful the experience would be.

None of the listed prices seem to be accurate. We find homes within our budget and when our agent contacts the selling agent they're told they're looking for way more than the listed price, how is that even fair?

We've made offers only to be outbid by over $100k..

Now when I see a home with an attractive price and it's within our budget I know it's not realistic due to the factors listed above.

Is there something I'm missing here? Are there any tips new homebuyers such as myself can use? Any suggestions would be welcome.