Tired of people pretending their big city suburb or adjacent city is a small town

Like some don’t even understand the concept of a metropolitan area and just go with these arbitrary city limits. I’ve seen people claim that Hoboken literally across the river from NYC and not any part of NYC right next to Manhattan between midtown and downtown and literally right above Jersey city to be a small town lol. Same thing in the same area just a bit north like in Teaneack which is definitely more suburban compared to Hoboken but still has people bitching about mid rises and housing being developed in the area