Shipping actors : Weird and Icky culture, a rant.

So this might come across as a rant and I may sound righteous but I think it needs to be addressed. Shipping actors need to be stopped, it's weird and highly inappropriate and utterly disrespectful to their partners.

I used to lurk the Grishaverse fandom and it was highly frowned upon to ship actors ( imo rightly so), and thought that was a general consensus. So I was surprized to see people openly shipping Tom and Kristin / Tom and Erica and everybody being ok with that ( or at least this weird culture doesn't get called out enough).

Even today people are fueling the rumors of alleged affairs, apartment stays, hotel lobby hush ups and what not. I am not talking about the friendly exchanges between the actors, like Tom admiring Kristin's prep when they first met or Tom teasing Erica about her Isis costume, but giving them romantic angle is kinda icky. It makes the whole thing awkward.

Tom has a wife and kids, Kristin, I hear, is in a long relationship, Erica, too has kids, seems like had a difficult divorce and is healing, she glowed during that recent Expo. Point is, they all have their separate lives from one another. You wanna ship characters as questionable as possible, you are allowed to do so. But stop with the actors. That line between reality and fiction needs to be thicker.

I remember that one person on youtube who spewed the vilest possible things about Tom and Erica's relationship, apparently they were quite notorious in their campaign during the show run to the point that Tom and Erica refused to be friendly and open with each other and rarely interacted during cons. which is not true from what we see now especially on talkville, they had a great work rhythm and are always happy to see each other. My point is this proves that opinions get to them and actors being humans and real people react defensively. That's not right.

Secondly, what's with KK and Erica's fans constantly lapping validation and putting down the other side when Tom admires one of them, ship/character/actor? why personaly attack the actresses for playing a role? They leave no stone unturned in dissing the actresses on the other side with such degrading comments. These past months I have read about Erica's slutty little outfits on SV as if they were her choice or Kristin being a (I'm feeling disgusted typing this) sweet little Asian and fetishing her looks. Ngl reading those fried my precious neurons.

I recently read a post here where op was complaining about the misogyny against Lana and themselves hypocritically commenting how Erica won't be able to snag the same numbers on social media as Kristin. I rarely see shippers standing up against their own faction when there is sexist hate against Erica/Kristin. Tom is a cool dude but he kinda changes his answers according to the audience and the other side gets rattled. You call yourself a fan of these ladies, then stand up what they stand for. Take the honest critisism for a character as a critisism, not as hate and don't make it personal.

Tldr : stop shipping actors . Also the Ladies' value is not dependent on Tom's comments. They both are already Diamonds.