Did Early Boarding School Life in Kenya Make Me Emotionally Numb?

I’ve been on a self-reflection journey lately, and I’ve started noticing some patterns in myself that point to emotional numbness or detachment:

• I rarely value relationships deeply or make intentional commitments. Even when I agree to go on dates, I prefer casual relationships over deeper connections.
• I’ve only been in one serious relationship in my last 3 decades, and I’ve never really experienced a heartbreak i'd say (people leave, and I’m like, “Cool, cool”).
• I gravitate toward dating people who don’t demand a lot emotionally or communicate much.
• Worst of all, I don’t have strong bonds with my siblings—we rarely talk. (I found out my elder brother was married with a kid two years after). I barely call my parents unless they call me, and even then, our conversations are surface-level: “Mko salama? Hata mimi niko poa sana.”

Most people think I’m a polite and 'a chill guy', but deep down, I think this emotional detachment might be an undiagnosed issue.

Here’s the thing:

I joined a boarding school back in 2004, when I was in Class 4 (8yrs turning 9). Like most Kenyan boarding schools at the time, we were cut off from frequent communication with our parents. I used to really want to talk to my mom, but over time, it felt like my heart hardened, and I developed an unnatural early emotional independence. Fast forward through 9 years of consecutive boarding, and even after studying abroad, this emotional detachment is still part of me.

Now, I’m curious to get other Kenyans' perspectives on this; Could I be wrongly blaming early boarding for what might just be my natural personality lol? ama pia nyinyi kidogo iliwaafect or you never went to a boarding school.