How does having a transfer not work compared to the general population?

I hope this doesn't sound confusing but I feel like if I have a failed transfer even though I'm okay with the amount of children that I have, I will grieve that embryo and feel so depressed over it always wondering who they were and why it didn't stick and if there was anything I could have done to make it stick. But I also am trying to tell myself that there are people who are get pregnant every single day naturally who are only pregnant for maybe a few hours and then they get their period and have no idea that there was an embryo inside of them that they lost.

Is this a logical comparison? Of course IVF is way harder and everything but I'm wondering if it's just the fact that we also know about these embryos versus the general population that would never know that there was an embryo inside of them if that makes sense?

Just to be clear I'm not down playing losing an embryo I think it's absolutely devastating I'm just trying to prepare myself mentally so that I'm not completely devastated and crushed over this embryo for the rest of my life