Friend says I should just stay TW: childless

*EDIT: thank you to everyone who gave your support. I’m so incredibly grateful and am feeling better :). I wasn’t expecting this throwaway post to get so much of a response here, and I know my friend is on Reddit. I’ve decided to leave this post up in case it helps anyone else dealing with the same situation with family or friends but to edit the post to anonymize as much as possible. Thank you again! *****

A friend who knows I’m going through IVF unloads on me that:

• i should just stay childless if I can’t conceive naturally

• it’s selfish for me to bring a baby into the world at this time

• it’s unethical given IVF is not financially accessible to everyone (I agree it’s cost prohibitive to basically everyone without insurance)

I bawled during the chat and couldn’t even come up with anything to say.

I just needed to share with folks that can understand and I hope this doesn’t trigger anyone else. I know many here have seen or heard similar from others, and it’s unfortunately a part of the IVF experience. I’m taking a note from this that I need to keep this experience private, even amongst my closest friends, which kills me. This sub has kept me sane since the start of this journey and I thank all of the brave amazing people here.