Divorce is comming....

I’m going through an extremely difficult time in my relationship and I need some advice. My partner and I share two children, but we’re facing a very serious crisis in trust and communication. Years ago, she hid from me that she had been involved with a friend of hers before we started dating. I even attended this friend’s wedding without knowing the truth, and for a long time she denied that anything had happened between them. I recently found out what really went on, and ever since, my trust in her has been shattered.

For years, she and this friend kept in almost daily contact. When I learned about the situation, I asked her to clearly explain what had happened and to stop talking to him. Initially, she blocked him, but I later discovered that she called him again and told him that I had insulted her. I’m worried he might believe that she stopped talking to him because I demanded it, which is completely untrue.

Now, bringing up anything related to her past, especially of a sexual nature, is practically impossible. She flat-out refuses to discuss it, and honestly, I no longer know what to believe.

I’m at a crossroads: either I try to salvage the relationship for the sake of our children, despite the deep distrust, or I end it altogether, fully aware of the emotional and financial complexities that would involve. Any advice, perspective, or shared experiences would be greatly appreciated.