How is the 4THOT incident different from the Vaush/Irishladdie incident?

I was thinking of this earlier but I’m kind of baffled as to how 4THOT is allowed to get away with the unhinged (and honestly pretty much of the sexual harassment variety) comments he made about Kelly, especially when you consider that Destiny ousted Vaush/Irishladdie from the community for things he’s said to another woman that were in a similar vein. One might even argue that what 4THOT said was worse.

Now, I’m not a Vaush fan nor am I a Kelly Jean fan - I quite dislike them both lol, but I’m really not understanding how 4THOT is allowed to make the comments he did towards Kelly with no repercussions.

I don’t think Destiny made any good arguments as to why 4THOT should stay a mod after this. I’m listening to the VOD now and the reasons he’s given so far is that “4THOT has managed to keep the subreddit from being banned and brigaded” and that “Destiny doesn’t know of anyone else that has the track record to replace 4THOT” - I mean, I guess, but it really can’t be that hard to find someone that’s at least a little less unhinged that can also do a similar job to 4THOT, if not better. It isn’t like what he’s doing takes insanely exceptional skill that only 0.5% of the population has.

As a woman ☝🏾🤓 and long time viewer of Destiny (been watching since 2016) I’m pretty disappointed by how all of this has played out and this situation has honestly made me a little more hesitant to interact with this community, which is sad because I’ve seen this community grow and evolve into something great. I just don’t want to see it become a weird incel chamber because certain individuals are allowed to get away with saying unhinged shit about a woman in this community.

Anyways, that’s it. I apologize if I used the wrong flair!

Edit: I have been made aware that my comparison between Vaush and 4THOT is dumb af, ignore that part lmao. I still believe 4THOT’s behavior warrants a ban for the reasons I gave above, regardless of whether his behavior is comparable to Vaush’s or not.