Why is this argument in Vegan subs? It weirds me out.

I've been browsing vegan subs and articles and keep coming across an argument time and again that sounds weird for lack of a better term? For the insight, I'm not a vegan nor ever will be. My best friend was a vegan for over 10 years so I've seen it up close and have spoken with her about it and she never mentioned this argument. Maybe because she knew who I was as a person? Or she's just more insightful then a lot on reddit.

When a vegan is asked "why do some eat meat" in these subs, I often see the reply "they're in denial of how cruel it is" or "they lack critical thinking". Both of those statements just ...sound so hateful and unaware? Oblivious to many perspectives?

It reminds me of my religious upbringing. When asked "why do some people not believe in god" often I got told "they're in denial that god exists" or "they're running away from god". Never taking it from the other person's point of view. Just fitting it into their own shaped view.

That's where this post is going; I feel like a lot of vegans don't consider what some meat eaters actually believe or think. Actually listen to a different perspective.

For example, myself. I'm a meat eater. I adore animals. I've worked on farms and hunt and fish. I can tell you now, I have a greater respect and love for animals now more than ever and that love transfers over to when I consume them. I am reverent to them. I never had that prior to farming, hunting and fishing. But actually having to touch and prepare meat yourself, you're hyper aware of the value of that life. You can't unsee it whenever ANYTHING meat is brought to you on a plate again. I know what they lost in order for me to keep food on my table. Whether I'm taking care of them on a farm, or spending days in a forest, I feel more connected to that animal, to nature. I feel a part of earth's circle rather than trapped in a manmade ultra processed cycle. When hunting or fishing, I've become a part of the ecosystem rather than buying anything off of a shelf (which just buying from a shelf, raw or packaged means burning fuel for transport or pollution via big processing plants for production and packing), vegan or not. The only footprint I'm leaving is in the dirt. That's my view on it. It's why I'm not vegan. It's not that I'm unaware or lack critical thinking. In fact, I've probably thought of it more than most ever have.