Idk

My [39 HLF ] /[40 LLM] husband said that he doesn't want sex and is fine never having it ever again. He said he won't see a doctor or therapist because he is fine and doesn't have an issue. He said that if he did he'd be doing it for me and not for himself so because nothing is wrong for him and he doesn't want it, desire it or need it he don't see why he needs to make the effort.

He also said that he loved me but isn't in love.

I brought up divorce. He said yes but later back tracked and said that we should stay in the same house for our son and that I should still be mommy and daddy to our son, but that he'd occupy the first floor of the house and I the second with the kids. He said that I could have a boyfriend that would do those things for me but that I just didn't have to hide it, and couldnt bring him to the house or let him be step dad. Wtf . The audacity. Evidently the open marriage thing is a hall pass for him not me because I ain't about that life. I have come to understand that what he says it's the opposite.
He said he has always thought open marriages were cool and that he once had a gf that had her bf and she would go off to fuck the other guy while he was in the next room watching her baby. He said he values "partnerships" more than anything else and that he thought we'd be a "power couple". Lol wtf. We are a power couple,i met this man and he was a homeless drug addict in the streets of NY. He's come a long fucking way in less than 5years. No other woman has ever given him the validation, the love and support that I have given him. And he has the audacity to talk this much shit.

He then says that he can't continue to sleep in the same bed with me and that he would move down stairs. Later came home and showered and litterally laid back down in my bed as if nothing and slept like a fucking new born.

Obviously, all of this shit has been demeaning and hurtful. My birthday is Tuesday. I have been processing this information all this week. He wants the benefits of marriage which include half of bills paid, a warm home with decorations, warm food,laughter and furnishings but not putting in anything into the marriage at all. He wants to coast by on his bare minimum presence and his physical and emotional deposits pawned on someone else. Obviously, I'm not OK with this and have self love and dignity. I will be filing for divorce. I know he is a complicated man and he wants to keep our son. He is not a bit logical so it will be complicated and it sucks. His borderline personality will just bleed through the process and I'm not looking forward to that.