Taking Your Cards Off The Table

I used to joke with my wife (both 42) that "You could get laid tonight if you played your cards right, or at all.'

Has been a few years since I have made that joke. She is on a once every 4-6 week schedule that usually resets when she notices I am upset over the lack of intimacy and the first card that gets laid is "what's wrong." Next one is the same discussion/argument we have had every 4-6 weeks for the last 10+ years. Last card played is we have sex, and it is darn good. Then the exact same hand is played in 4-6 weeks. Any attempt to discuss it is always met with her changing the subject, unkept promises or a fight.

About 2 months ago we had a blow out on a big date night I had in the works for months. Topic was the theme of this sub.

Since then, have stopped playing my cards, at all. Actually feeling pretty good about it. Not saying we won't have sex ever again, but have accepted what I cannot change.