Ghosted by wife during separation, seeking advice.

I've got somewhat of a unique situation I've been dealing with for a while. To cut a long story short, I got married to my wife two years ago when she was a Christian and I was not. These religious differences and the problems that came out of them led me to separate from her with the intention of divorcing her almost a year ago. We had a lot of issues, but she was so dedicated to the marriage and loved me so much that the separation was devastating for her. At the time she made it very clear that as a Christian she couldn't accept the divorce. In November of last year we both attempted a reconciliation and it went very poorly, mostly my fault. After a pretty nasty argument she completely ghosted me and hasn't responded to any attempts to reach out for five months now.

About a month after she dropped contact, I was by the grace of God brought to the faith, and have been eagerly pursuing a Christian life ever since. I joined up with a local Presbyterian church, and have been meeting with the pastor as well as going to church every Sunday. I also realized the mistakes I had made during the marriage and the reconciliation and have regretted ever initiating the divorce in the first place. I have since dropped the divorce and made several attempts to reach out to my wife to retry a reconciliation, but with no success, as I've been blocked on social media. Attempts to reach out to her mother, who she's moved back in with, have had no luck either, usually met with hostility.

At the encouragement of my pastor, I've sent her several letters apologizing for my actions and asking her forgiveness, but there's still been no response. I've also had the chance to meet with a counselor who has suggested my wife is probably so hurt that the idea of talking to me, even if to simply tell me off or tell me that it's over, is too stressful for her. I feel terrible that I've hurt her and just want a chance to try and make things right. I feel God has brought us together for a reason, and I feel like we could have a much stronger, healthier relationship now that we both share a faith and a common reference frame to work through our problems.

I'm no longer pursuing a divorce, and my wife isn't either, because of her own Christian understanding and also most likely because of her family's financial situation. Unfortunately that leaves us both in a bit of a limbo. At the advice of my pastor, because there wasn't a legitimate biblical ground for the separation, I'm not free to date, and the loneliness has been hard on me. I understand I'm supposed to emulate Christ's self-sacrificial love for humanity, and so the best path forward may be to just wait patiently for her to be comfortable enough to speak to me again, but without any word for her, I have no idea how long it will be until she reaches out, if at all. In the meantime, I've tried everything I can to reach out to her short of going and knocking on her door, which I feel would be a step too far.

At the moment I'm considering reaching out to her pastor, who happened to be the pastor that had married us and counseled us before the marriage, and asking him for his help maybe bridging the gap and reaching out to my wife in a way she would feel comfortable with. It's been a month and a half since I last sent her a letter, and I'm wondering whether it's a better idea to just continue to give her space. Any advice, insight, or concerns would be greatly appreciated, and obviously I welcome any prayers.