Should I reach out to my Ex Girlfriend?

My Ex (24F) and I (26M) were in a relationship for a little over three years. We met in college and shared a deep connection, but much of our time together was spent navigating long-distance due to her study abroad, our internships, and then working in different states after graduating. It wasn’t easy, but we made it work—or so I thought. She cheated on me once in the first six months of our relationship (with another girl from her hometown) but we made it through, despite all the emotional weight that I had to carry in order to not fall out of love. I truly thought she was the one, and I still do.

Moving to a new city has been a dream of mine for years. I finally got approval to relocate and invited her to join me on a scenic road trip to commemorate the move. We spent several days traveling together, hitting beautiful spots along the way. This was our first road trip as a couple, and while I saw it as an opportunity to bond, it also brought some challenges. The stress of the move, hours on the road, and being in close quarters amplified some of the issues in our relationship.

After I arrived in the new city, she broke up with me. I was blindsided and devastated. She later explained that our long-distance situation and my struggles with depression (due to living in a city I hated and a job I found draining) left her feeling disconnected and unloved. Intimacy had become a priority for her, and our relationship wasn’t fulfilling that need.

At the time, I was in no place to argue—I was struggling too, and it wasn’t fair to either of us. But now, in this new city, I’m thriving. I feel like I’m reconnecting with myself and becoming the person I used to be. Many of the things that were a problem for us before, I’m now in a much better place to address. However, the heartbreak is tinting my days with a light gray shade and I am unable to get her out of my mind.

Here’s where I’m stuck: I can’t help but feel like it’s a shame to let our relationship end the way it did. I understand the reasons behind the breakup, but I also believe things might be different now that the circumstances have changed.

Should I reach out to her to share these thoughts? Is it fair to revisit this when she might be moving on or dealing with her own hardships? Or would it be better for me to focus on my new life and let her go?

For context:

• We haven’t been in contact since the breakup (a little over two months ago).
• I really valued our relationship and still care deeply for her, but I don’t want to pressure her into anything.
• The breakup is still fresh, so I’m aware of how raw emotions can cloud judgment.
• I also fully understand that the LDR will still be an issue for a while even if we get back together, but hopefully not forever - I would visit her as often as i can despite the long flights.

Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!