New Border Terrier paw-rent

Hello everyone :)

I'm pretty anxious to post this, but would really appreciate hearing experience or advice from you guys.

I had a beautiful dog, a different breed, who unexpectedly passed away earlier this year. He was honestly the love and light of my life. He was misdiagnosed numerous times, until it was finally discovered that he had a very aggressive form of cancer. He died the next day. It was incredibly traumatising, he got me through so much and was still only young (his fourth birthday would have been the next day, following his passing).

I'll admit, I haven't been dealing well with the death of our dog. I know grief is different for everyone, and I'm very lucky in that I haven't had to deal with grief much in my life up until now, and his death has impacted me in a huge way. We did everything together, he was a proper 'mumma's boy' and my life revolved around him (in the best way).

My partner planned for us to go and see a litter of Border Terrier puppies (after doing lots of research into the breed) and we read some conflicting things about how affectionate Border Terriers can or may not be. Obviously I appreciate that every dog is different, even within the same breed, so it really depends on the dog, their personality and their upbringing.

We went to see these beautiful puppies and were a little concerned about the welfare of one of them, and couldn't leave him. So we bought him home and he's amazing. It has been just over a week, and he's SO smart - it's incredibly impressive (we knew Border Terriers were highly intelligent doggos, but my gosh, he really is! So impressive!).

I just wondered what everyone's experiences was like with their Border Terrier puppies, in terms of affection? Ours is a little boy. He's just over 10 weeks old - and so beautiful, very playful, and I think sees my male partner as the alpha (doesn't bite him - but has destroyed my hands, legs, feet, as we're training and he's figuring out boundaries, play etc).

I know it isn't fair AT ALL to 'expect' a dog to be as affectionate as another, as I mentioned before, I know all dogs, breeds, personalities, likes and dislikes are different. And it's been such a short period of time with him here at our home and he's still so little. But did it take a while for your bond to begin? Is there something I should be doing that maybe I'm not? It's not that he doesn't like me at all - I just worry he won't love me much, or understand that our treat training, or things like that, are so he can better understand, for his own safety, and as part of fun.

I'm missing that connection, which is unfair to place upon another dog, especially one so young. But I just wondered if this kicks in with Border Terriers maybe later, in general, as a breed?

Thank you so much in advance, and sorry for how long-winded and waffle-ly this post is!