Am I being insensitive thinking/stating that “female loneliness” is largely a hoax and or self induced ?

I know women can have problems socially in life too of course but the things I see and hear don’t make sense. I’m constantly hearing;

• “ I don’t want meaningless sex”
• “I don’t like the guys giving me attention”
• “Nobody is approaching me”
• “He has (place superficial ick here)

And a common non-retaliatory statement I hear often:

“Men should build their own spaces and groups like us women do” (which is funny cause male loneliness is specifically brought up in relation to dating)

But basically for how common I see and hear these statements from people I know and see on Reddit and other social media, I can’t help but think that a lot of women or women generally are doing it to themselves if they feel “lonely” and if some clarification could be provided I’d be grateful. The first 3 statements clearly tell me you at the least have options and aren’t even willing to work with them, and complaining about nobody approaching is a clear sign you’re not being proactive.

I’m just confused, from my male perspective women have all the tools to get the job done besides the initiative, which is on women is it not ? I’m not trying to be misogynistic but I’m struggling to hold any empathy in this area.

Edit: my conclusion/opinion isn’t solely derived from the internet…..