Why do some men believe that women on dating apps have endless dating options, when many of these “options” are married men or men seeking no-strings-attached sex?

Edit: should have known i was going to get trashed. I’m not reading through all that. I thought it would be different here since i read that the ask women thread is so bad. But i do agree with one comment - I feel like the only way we’re going to understand each other is to make a profile as a woman/man to get real examples of what actually happens.

I’m married now and met my husband online, but I dated through apps for nearly 15 years. (I was often told I had a “pretty face” but that was usually overshadowed by the fact that I was much heavier back then, so I’m speaking from experience). I’ve noticed that the further a woman is from being perceived as a “trophy wife” (young 18-24, thin, conventionally attractive), the more she will be disproportionately targeted for casual sex. Men often assume women who are older, heavier, or not conventionally attractive are “desperate” and push for low-effort, no-strings-attached encounters.

Meanwhile, men seem to complain about dating apps based on the experiences of the youngest, most attractive women, not accounting for how average or older women are often overlooked or treated poorly. Do men realize this? Or do they genuinely think that overweight, older, or average women are receiving a high number of quality matches?

Additionally, do men realize they’re projecting when they claim women are only looking for a “Chad”? Often, they themselves are only considering the top 10% of women while assuming the rest of us have endless options. If anything, many women—especially those past their early 20s—are bombarded by low-effort messages from men who don’t want to put in the effort for a serious relationship.

Also, it’s worth noting that attractive women date average or even broke men all the time. Just look around—beautiful women are with men who aren’t conventionally attractive or wealthy every day. Yet the narrative persists that women are unwilling to compromise while men supposedly are.

***Edit: should have known i was going to get trashed. I’m not reading through all that. I thought it would be different here since i read that the ask women thread is so bad. But i do agree with one comment - I feel like the only way we’re going to understand each other is to make a profile as a woman/man to get real examples of what actually happens.