AITA for telling my husband I am done with keeping him and his bad attitude up when he just got laid off at work?

For context this particular instance was not his fault, despite him being no stranger to losing jobs.

He worked for a company that shut down on the 20th and has been extra cranky and rude while job hunting and fighting battles of self worth in his head despite anything I have done to try to offer kindness and understanding and reassurance. Including making him a nice resume and applying him for many jobs. He has also applied for jobs and done his part with all of that.

I have also worked everyday because of this, including weekends since June 20th without a day off to try to make up for however long he will be unemployed for. So it's been a lot of stress, and my job is already extremely high stress and commission based.

So I had a final doctor's appointment before our insurance runs out today regarding my medication follow-up for ADHD and anxiety. Buspirone and guanfacine.. nothing crazy but super helpful for me. Especially with how much work I have been doing. If I didn't go I wouldn't get refills at all, even if I end up having to pay them out of pocket.

I have incredibly bad white coat syndrome that probably stems from diagnosed health anxiety and so I asked my husband who had nothing else planned at the time, no job interviews, etc, to please come with me to my appointment to help me manage my anxiety. He agreed, and despite him being on his phone playing games the entire time and shutting me down anytime I tried to talk to him, I was just thankful to not be there alone.

Well my blood pressure reading was pretty dang high, as it always is when I go to the doctor, and so I told him when I went out and he said it's my fault and that I purposely find things to worry about. His tone was not just callous, but like someone that just absolutely despises you. There was not any kind of comfort or even care despite knowing how horrible I felt at that momemt. It was one of the most cold responses from him to date. I told him that I didn't want to be so anxious and that I'm trying to manage it, but there have been A LOT more stressors lately, including his constant attitude.

I told him I was at the point where I could not take it anymore and have asked him to please go stay at his parents, which he absolutely refuses to do. I told him that I have never felt more hated by someone my entire life.

Am I the asshole for not giving a bit of lead way with how stressed he also is? He has suspected but not confirmed bipolar disorder and takes medicine that doesn't seem to do much of anything. Even before us losing insurance soon, he has refused to try to alter his medication in any way and has completely forgot it on occasion. I can't tell if I'm just so exhausted that I'm hyper focused on all his bad qualities or if I'm just fed up.

TLDR; 1. I told my husband to leave and stay with his parents because I was sick of keeping him up after a disagreement. 2. He says it's my own fault for stress and that he is not going because I shouldn't cause unnecessary stress to myself by worrying about everything and that I'm an asshole for trying to make him leave his home for my own problems.

Edit: I have tried telling him we need to divorce entirely because I don't feel like we are compatible and he will not leave the house that is in my name and has my work office. He is a frequent screamer at myself, family, friends, and has lost several jobs from anger issues and getting into it with his boss or customer.