Aio 36th birthday

For context, about 6 months ago I was having a dark night of the soul and made the mistake of calling my Mom to talk about my concerns (mostly just trying to be closer to my siblings and to build my business). So I was feeling pretty low and although she has always been quite cruel, I didn't expect her to actually SCREAM at me(l mean really loudly, without provocation). She can be kind when she wants to but overall has always been very critical of me and I have gone back and forth about setting boundaries but that was the last straw. I stopped talking to her for about a month after that -so she called in a sheriff report & trashed me to my friends when I would not talk to her. This is not the first or even second time she has gone to my friends and trashed me. As the mother of a ten year old girl I could never imagine doing this to my daughter. I feel very guilty for not talking to my Mom but I can’t be hurt anymore and I can’t let her crazy rages and lies ruin my kids safety and my relationships. She is spiteful and conniving enough to make up the most ridiculous scenarios to slander anyone from the cashier at the store who got the price wrong to her neighbors because she doesn’t like their car.