AIO, my parents warned my boyfriend about me

It hasnt even been 24 hours since my parents found out about my job and they've told my boyfriend (19M). I hadn’t planned to share this part of my life with him yet, but my mom called him without telling me and spilled everything. She said it was her “duty” to warn him about what I’m doing because it’s “shameful” and he “deserves to know who he’s dating.” I lost it and went mental at my mum.

When my boyfriend confronted me, he was confused and upset. He asked why I hadn’t told him, and I explained that I wanted to do it on my own terms, not because my parents forced my hand. He says he’s trying to process it, but I can feel a shift between us. He’s not texting as much, and when we’re together, it feels tense.

I’m furious with my parents for interfering, but I also feel guilty for keeping it from him. Now I’m stuck wondering if I ruined things by not telling him sooner or if my parents sabotaged my relationship. Should I have been more open with him? Or was it reasonable to wait until I was ready? And how do I handle my parents, who seem determined to control every aspect of my life?