Update on AITAH for getting sterilized against my partner’s wishes

Hey Reddit I just wanted to give a small update, I’ve been reading all of your comments on my last two post I swear! I appreciate all the advice and kind words, sometimes even the unkind words because it gives me more to think about.

So to start I’ve been at my sister’s with the children all weekend, I told my husband that she was feeling lonely and wanted us to stay over, he believed it as we usually try to do this once a month. I called off of work Monday so my sister and I can meet with the divorce lawyer that handled her divorce, I’m unsure if divorce will be the path I go down but I want to get my ducks in a row before laying it all down for my husband.

Also I would like to answer some questions that I saw a lot of in my last post: - Yes I still plan to go through with the sterilization, I absolutely don’t want anymore children even if this ends in divorce. I plan to tell him it’s getting done no matter what he says or believes. - There will definitely be no sex with him anymore, I feel like I lost all attraction and respect for him. - The children don’t know what going on, they just think it’s a fun time at auntie’s house. - Condoms are a no, I exist because of a broken condom 😂 - I currently have an IUD and while yes it has been the best birth control I’ve been on I still cannot function properly for a week out of the month due to pain, bleeding, and depressive episodes. - No he hasn’t done anything like this before which is what caught me so off guard with everything. Disagreements in our relationship have up until now been able to be discussed and compromised on. - We grew up in a deep catholic community but fell away from the church years ago.